I’m sure I’m not alone when I say I’ve spent hours getting ready for the first date in order to impress, and then end up failing. Men are very visual people. I learned it the hard way that more is not always better. On the contrary, keep the mantra “less is more” in mind for the majority of your preparation and your chances of getting a second date is 78% higher according to my scientific guesstimate.
Your date is most likely not going to evaluate you on how well you can walk in heels. Wear something comfortable so you can keep up with his pace. What is more attractive than a girl who’s down to earth?
Why spend hours curling your hair to create more volume? Nine out of ten guys prefer straight hair. What do you do if you don’t have straight hair? Well, I never claim these tips work for everyone. The best advice I can give you is just jump in the shower and let your hair air dry before your date. He honestly will not care what your hair looks like, as long as you have some on the top of your head.
Girls place a strong emphasis on their eye makeup but the first thing most guys notice is going to be your smile. He is not going to point out that you forgot to put on lipstick. However, those bright red lips are definitely going to scare him away. He is also not going to appreciate that nude lipstick that you deem to go perfectly with your smoky eyes. What’s better than going out with someone who looks like she just made out with a chalk broad? Anything.
Put on some lipbalm and you’re good to go.
The most important part of a girl’s preparation is doubtlessly her outfit. Most girls make the mistake of applying the “less is more” rule here instead of the points previously mentioned. She might pick the shortest dress that also shows off the most cleavage. It may not be the worst pick… if you are hoping this date will last until the next morning and a second date is absolutely optional.
My advice is to go with something more practical and comfortable. You can’t go wrong with a nice blouse and jeans. This outfit tells him you are trying, but not too hard .
This is probably the most confusing part of the night. I usually do not want to make the assumptions that he is prepared to pay but also do not want to hurt his man pride and reach for the bill. The smartest thing to do is politely ask your date if he would like you to pay for your share after the server is out of sight to avoid any embarrassment. No double standards here but if he wants a second date, he better be paying for the first.
Of course, you are going to be like, what about the cliche BS advice about making eye contact, being yourself and ordering that steak and pasta dish instead of the salad, and asking him questions so he can feel important?
Sure, that’s important too but you know deep down that only looks matter.
I’m positive I didn’t cover everything here so if you have good first date pointers, please leave it as a comment.