Facebook is becoming a part of people’s daily lives and nowadays most people use social media platforms to brag about accomplishments, which is an unfortunate Facebook behavior that has developed. Generally, the most common type of boasting is about making your life sound amazing (e.g. leaving for that perfect vacation). Everyone brags once in a while, and in fact, sharing successes with our friends feels good, but over-bragging can become a problem. In person, people react to your boasts through an eye roll or a bored expression, which signals us to adjust our behaviour. But online, there is no face to face interaction that gives us hints when we should stop, and thus some people may not even realize they are bragging on social media. Here are some tips on how to avoid irritating your Facebook friends:
1. “Like” your friend’s accomplishments
It is fine to post about an award you won, but if your goal is to fish for more likes, then that is a completely wrong reason to boast. Always make sure you’re congratulating the successes of others too. Hit the “like” button on other people’s personal achievements, and they will most likely return the favour. Thus, this won’t seem like a one way stream of showing off your own success.
2. Think before you post
Before you hit that “post” button, think about what you just wrote. Annoying Facebook statuses generally only serve the author, and do not benefit the reader. If you are posting to a) seek attention b) change the way people think of you or c) you want people to be jealous of your life, then this might be a status your viewers will roll their eyes at. Think about what the reader might gain from your status… will your friends laugh or chuckle? Is this post informative or interesting?
3. Share brief moments of your success
If you really want to share an achievement, don’t write a long paragraph as your status. Be brief and simple so that the readers do not feel overwhelmed.
4. Look at your friends’ posts as examples
Go through your own newsfeed, and figure out what you like and don’t like about your friend’s posts. Do your own posts fall into the category of your friends’ status that you find repulsive? Draw inspiration from the posts you find positive and incorporate those elements into your own.
When we first got our Facebook accounts, we probably added every person we know, classmates from elementary school to co-workers at work, without thinking about the consequences. Fast forward a few years later, our lists of friends have probably grown to hundreds, but these people aren’t exactly “friends.” These people probably don’t care much about you or your day, so displaying your bad qualities on their computer screen is just something you shouldn’t do. Instead, turn to the ones who actually care about you, and share the good news with them, and these friends would gladly want to celebrate with you too.
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